I have been thinking a lot lately about the magic key for improving Mindset in our clients. I tried to organize and summarize all of the coaching calls I’ve had with my executives, the courtside conversations I’ve had with my athletes, as well as the Mindset things I’ve struggled with over my years in the fire service and in my personal life. If I had to put it all into one word it would be Control.
It seems to me the constant Mindset battle is trying to change things that we can’t control. It could be the traffic, the late train, the delayed flight, the number of meetings in a day, the number of emails, the demands and expectations of others on me, the needs of our spouse or our kids, the price of fuel, the state of the economy, the political opinion of my friend, the cost of my daughter’s education, the gusty wind on the tennis court, or the mountain of other challenges we face everyday. The more I look at all of these things (that appear completely unrelated) the more I realize that they all share one common thread – I can’t control them.
Faced with this earth shattering truth, I realize that I only have two choices: I can worry, complain, kick, scream, and suffer (a great way to move in the direction of burnout) OR I can laugh and focus on only those things that I can control (a great way to move in the direction of being a Sustainable High Performer). This doesn’t mean I ignore all of those other things. On the contrary, If I ignore them they will control me. They fester in my subconscious and they leave me feeling inadequate and overwhelmed. The answer is to be very aware of them, but this means being aware that they exist and that I can’t control them.
This leaves me with one solution. Be diligently aware of the situations in my life, be painfully honest with myself on what I can control, and be passionately committed to action on the things that I can control. The key to making this fundamental, but monumental shift, is to ask yourself – What can I control? What can I do? Then do it with an unmatched excellence.
By Scott Peltin
Founder & Chief Performance Officer