When clients go through the Tignum program there are always a few people who comment “this time they don’t want to fail like they have in previous attempts in other programs.” I love this comment because it shows their commitment, but it also shows their fear of falling into the same traps they have experienced before. At Tignum we realize that changing habits is never easy. We also realize that every change has mini-setbacks called Dips (see Dip blog).
For some clients their previous failures have been so prevalent or emotional that they truly can’t see themselves being successful. Instead, the only image they have is of them being initially excited and motivated and then looking at themselves in the mirror one day and asking what happened. This is totally normal because that’s the way the brain works…but it doesn’t have to be that way.
In fact, research has shown that one of the best indicators of future success in developing new habits may just be how many times you’ve previously failed. This is because each time you try to change yourself, you learn something new about yourself, you become more motivated, and you get closure to success. Therefore, a quick reframe of previous failures is to see them as practice sessions for making the real change.
If you combine this reframe with the mental imagery of seeing yourself successful, you just may break the trend and you may just fulfill Scott’s Law of Success – You’re only one day away from being right on track and becoming a Sustainable High Performer!
By Scott Peltin
Founder & Chief Performance Officer